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nine ten-Year -old Anoushka Dougherty finished The School earlier this Year and spent the summer months thinking about their next big Step - Leaving Home in Kent and in the direction of the University in Manchester. One of The Most important questions that your friends were fighting, they noticed, what to do about your existing friends and girlfriends. Dump or not dump?

JULY 2019It is the summer before the start of the University, the results are around The Corner and the time to do the home-cooked meals and Laundry would finally end. But in spite of the fact that we are fussing about the budgeting and the acquisition of culinary skills beyond pasta and noodle pot, one of The Most stressful decisions surrounding uni-for many People , whether or not to remain in the secondary school, and relationships.

Talk To My friends, I've found that some of the relationships go, in spite of the constraints of distance, while others are finishing things before the start of the semester.

And Then there is a third group who have decided to go Together to the same city as your Partner , so that You can study and stay.

I'm curious, those who plan to keep their existing partners. Will survive their relationships, or the romantic possibilities in their new environments are turning to exciting to be at the bottom?

Luke to leave soon to start Kent with a degree in geography at Southampton. Although the uni is a welcome change, and think about what happened to him and his girlfriend, studying, Three Hours away, is intensified. You have Together help for a few months, and Luke credits The Relationship with him, to stay healthy through his tests and overcome his struggles with anxiety.

Luke and Anoushka dance in The School -prom-Although he's the possible difficulties, Luke wants to break The Relationship prematurely. Instead, he hopes that regular visits, Social Media and a lot of commitment, help, go to keep it. He does not know, it is the same level of intimacy between them and says he is worried that the temptation of the uni can be a Problem.

"trust is perhaps the only thing I'm worried about The Future . I trust My Girlfriend 100%, clearly," he says.

"But we both go in the big cities, to make new friends Every Day . The chances of one or The Other , someone we might find more, and more attractive, are quite high.

"With roommates, say, You spend Every Day with You , instead of The Five hours on a weekend, with your Partner . There could be problems. "

Even so, he thinks, perhaps, that he and his girlfriend can make it Work .

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Although The Separation will be hard, he thinks, it might help to test The Relationship and allow them to see both whether it is really worth pursuing.

"If You go to uni, and it works, then You know, then You have some solid basics and have a relationship that could last For Life . If You look at the past, The First two years or so then You 'll know that The Relationship is going to Work - and if not, then that is a good indication that it is never going to Work . "

Our friend Tom thinks that this may be missed. University of the People changed, he says, so he asks Luke to end things before the period begins. He was influenced by his older brother, who studied single-and fell in love. And he notes that at the University, You can obtain from a much larger pool of People .

Luke, with his eyes closed, and Tom, "There are a lot of options out there and so much the more chance of meeting The Right person," he says.

relationship therapist, Dee Holmes, who works for the counseling center, Tell, tell me, these various views are shaped in part by how People react to new challenges.

", I, some People start University a lot of excitement and You lose brings think can, everything that was before. For them it is a new beginning. And still for others, it is very important to the security You have in the moment. "

she adds that while Social Media can be, it's much easier to be in relationships, it can also be a burden for You but may. This is particularly the case when a person is isolated and distrustful.

"If You spend every night in your room on a Skype conversation with your girlfriend or boyfriend Miles Away , then in fact You 'll probably make that the loneliness and the uncertainty greater. Especially if You have fun with the roommates and go, while You are left wondering what is going on. "

Anoushka is in a relationship, how it begins in Manchester, One Way could be to go to University in the same city as your Partner - this is exactly what have chosen Thea and Lola to do.

You start in Leeds Uni and your friends will Beckett of Leeds, right Next Door .

Thea, who says, with her boyfriend, Jack, two years, it is a perfect solution.

"You have the feeling of support, as she says in the same place, but You have The Separation You need, somehow, to find their feet and do their own thing," She Said .

You will notice, however, that neither your parents or Lola are completely on Board with the decision. They seem to fear that their daughters will be cut off from the full uni experience.

"I think You are right to be skeptical, because if your child to the University, You don't want to pay £9,000 per Year for You to be hanging out with your friend, or You stay in bed. They say that University is the Best Time in your life, and You do not want your child to waste, that it is with your boyfriend or girlfriend. "

It is not You . Each Year , a free-lance journalist contributions, pointed a dark-humorous tweet on A-level results day, the fact that all The Good news could be The Kiss of death for relationships.

"I was wheeling them in various incarnations for The Last eight years or so. It is immediately assignable to anyone who went to University. We have seen it all already! Most of The Lovebirds in my first Year halls consciously uncoupled from Halloween," he says.

"Most of the People love the tweet and laugh Together , but in The Last few years I've noticed a growing counter-movement, mostly of couples who stay Together and are eager to claim that their monogamy, or who claims that the new students could be upset about the tweet. I would say the teenagers are not lacking in humor, and wise enough to know how things could turn out. And if You are against the trend, congratulations!"

to a company When It Comes to advice on practical steps to long-distance relationships Work , there are blog posts, how often to call, how do You build trust with difficult situations deal. Written by travel bloggers Absolutely Lucy apart, lived with her boyfriend from home all the way through College, only to drift, once You are in The World of Work . As a student, have You sent dedicated to specific weekends to a couple of times, and to help thoughtful texts and even flowers, keep The Relationship alive. You both made the effort, and.

"Temptation is the biggest question of all about a friend at the University. There is a lot of temptation, if You like sweaty guys too much aftershave to wear daring shortcuts down pints without being sick! Some might feel excluded by all the drunken kisses and sleep, which comes about with the freshers' [week], but You are not really missing something! It is possible to go to University and do not sleep with everyone. Yes, it is possible to go on a Night Out and You Go Home with the girls and a greasy burger!"

Katie Broadbent has also written for the students separated from their partners, which involves sharing problems with Close Friends and keep as busy as possible, while apart.

she had with her boyfriend, Sam, for two years, before it began, at various universities, and they are still Together now that You have completed. It was hard, but worth the effort, she says.

"I know that many of my friends and family were doubtful whether we would stay Together , but our relationship is stronger than ever.

"We have seen both matured a lot and so much. Now we look forward to The Future . I think if You are determined You really are to your Partner , You will always find a way to make things Work . "

SEPTEMBER 2019In Leeds freshers' week is over already.

Thea says she has hardly seen her boyfriend in The Last couple of days, because they agreed to use the time to make new friends.

Lola tells me she's wondering whether You want to spend more time Together away from home and your school friends could mean that You and your friend clash more, but she's philosophical about it.

"I would be surprised if we were still Together in a Year - Pleasantly Surprised , but I don't think we will. I don't think it is a little sad, or like some emotional break-up," she says.

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Source of news: bbc.com