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An unusual lawsuit is making headlines in India.

A couple is suing their only son and his wife for not giving them a grandchild after Six Years of marriage.

Sanjeev and Sadhana Prasad, 61 and 57, say they used up their savings raising their son, paying for his pilot's training, a lavish wedding and his honeymoon.

And now, they say, it's Payback Time - ($650,000; £525,000).

Although the younger couple have Not Yet commented, a detailed reading of The Court petition shows that relations between the Prasads and their son's family are strained.

Talking to BBC Hindi, Sadhana Prasad Said her son and daughter-in-law's refusal to have children had opened them to " taunts from Society " and described it as " mental cruelty".

" We had no option but to go to The Court . We have been trying to talk to them but whenever we raise the issue of grandchildren, they become evasive. Their decision not to procreate would mean The End of our Family Name , " She Said .

" We Are very unhappy, " her husband Sanjeev added. " We Are retired. We want to be grandparents. We Are Even willing to look after their children. Grandchildren bring joy into people's lives, but We Are being deprived of it. "

The case of disappointed parents taking their children to court for not giving them grandchildren is perhaps a First In the country but, as many would say, having a child in India is almost never just a couple's decision.

Everyone - from parents and parents-in-law to near and Distant Relatives and the wider Society - has a say in The Matter and in most cases, families begin nudging couples towards starting A Family Even before The Bride 's henna has faded.

" In India, marriages are between families and not just a couple, " explains social anthropologist Prof AR Vasavi.

The " cultural logic" in what the Prasads are doing is that " expecting grandchildren is a norm".

" They feel they have The Right to a grandchild because in our Society marriage is seen as an institution that sanctifies procreation and once married you are expected to reproduce for The Family , the caste and the community.

" They are also using the economic rationale that since I've spent money on your education and upbringing so now you have to fulfil my cultural rights whether you like it or not. "

This expectation of parents that it's the duty of their children to provide them with grandchildren cuts across caste, class and religious differences and transcends the urban-rural divide.

Journalist Ritu Agarwal points out that in 2019, India's richest Man - billionaire tycoon Mukesh Ambani - Made headlines when he dropped " broad hints" to his new daughter-in-law Shloka that it was Time to produce an heir.

" I'm sure that by The Time I Wish you next year, not only will I be a grandfather, but you'll be A Mother , " The Family released on the occasion of her birthday.

Less than 18 Months later, Ms Agarwal says, Shloka had delivered a Baby Boy .

In India, it as " the moral duty and legal obligation" of A Son to Take Care of his parents in Old Age , but campaigners say that the decision to have a baby or not is essentially A Woman 's.

But many Married Women say this pressure to procreate from family and Society - Even when " subtle" - puts unnecessary stress on them.

Sudha (name changed), a 46-year-old business analyst in the southern city of Bangalore, told The Bbc that when her parents arranged her marriage, she was 21 and had just graduated.

" At festivals, my in-laws' relatives would ask me, 'When are you giving us the Good News ?' I was very young and didn't know what to say. But it was very intimidating and every Time they would raise it, I would get very anxious, " she says.

That was 25 years ago and, she says, most women went along with their family's expectations and had a baby in The First or second year of marriage.

" But what I see is that Even today, most women, especially in small towns and rural India, do not question it and go along with the demand to have a child quickly. "

The lawsuit, she says, is " shocking" but the subtle pressure to deliver a baby continues.

Like for her cousin Srishti (name changed to protect her identity), a 28-year-old Software Engineer , who told me that in the 17 months of her marriage, family elders have already suggested " seven-eight" times that " it's Time for me to have a baby".

The First Time her parents-in-law broached the subject was just six months into her marriage. But she and her 30-year-old IT professional husband, who had an arranged marriage, don't want a child " any Time soon".

" We want to get to know each other better, deepen our bond and also Focus On our careers at The Moment , " She Said . " Having a baby is a long-term project. And I feel that a couple should not have a baby unless they are mentally and emotionally ready and confident to give The Baby the attention and care they need. "

She says The First couple of times " we were asked about having children, we explained why we didn't want to rush things" but the topic keeps Coming Up .

" They say 'Oh, so and so had a baby. Or This Girl and That Girl who just got married has also had a baby. It does feel like pressure when they raise it over and over again. But I just nod and ignore, " She Said .

Source of news: bbc.com