Jessica Allen

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Ruth and her Brother , Mike Murray

When a beloved person dies, it is often hard To Let go, and many people strive to make a connection any way you can. For some, it may be, by the visit of a tomb, the posting on the Facebook memorial page or also SMS you write.

six months, Ruth Murray in search of comfort in the text-messaging-phone number belonging to her Brother Mike had - it was a way to stay close to him, after he died suddenly.

The 36-year-old from Minneapolis, never an answer expected, but it was only associated their type of stay, to their older siblings.

So at the end of September, when her phone buzzed with a message from The Number you had for years with the inscription "brothaboo," her stomach turned.

she had written a SMS to tell him only hours before: "I miss you so much. God. What the hell is".

But The Stranger - Amber Leinweber, 32, of Oshkosh, Wisconsin , has become a godsend for grieving by Ruth

If Amber found out what Ruth wanted to about you, said to her, "the text whenever you want", and added: "I don't know, we know each other, but [I] nothing against a soundboard. "

she had been assigned by chance, the Mike ' s old number, if you gave the bosses to him a phone, and had initially thought that the texts thought they were received, for a lost phone.

Ruth said: "My Brother , Mike overdosed on heroin in March. He struggled with addiction for 12 years, and although he had been clean for three months, he has a relapse and died at the age of 37.

"We were really close and would text Every Day . He called me sisterboo. If I have a joke to tell him or a reminder that I wanted to share, or I wanted to achieve to him, I would message him in the same way, before he died. "

She Said , she never expected his number to be re-assigned, so fast and when Amber first messaged, Ruth had left The Room , she was in and find you crying somewhere.

Amber Leinweber is amazed at the attention, your kindness

But, if Ruth, she was shocked at how much it affects, with More Than 80,000 upvotes and 800 comments. People from all over The World , as well as you would. to your loved ones via SMS, Snapchat, Facebook, and more

Camille Sharrow-Blaum from Michigan, was among those who responded. You, your friend, Jenny, had died of cancer last year at the age of 27 to reach but in spite of this, Camille network to you.

"your man is holding the payment for your phone and The Number , so we can all the text. He keeps the shop in a drawer and never looks at the news, but he knows there are five of us in a group chat, and we are not able to bear it, to start a new one without you. "

you said the BBC, The Group still felt Jenny was an important part of your life and you want to share milestones with her, and added: "It just feels right for our conversations to continue with her in The Group chat - it makes it feel like a direct line to Jenny. It helps us remember, no matter how long you have been gone. "

'Small things'

Jaclyn Schwartz from Texas to fail to continue to pay for her husband Jason's phone line after his death by multi-organ in 2017. It you text him, see the pictures that he took and the conversations that he has with the people.

"It makes him a seemingly not so far, if I miss him," She Said .

"is It something that was like an ordinary part of his day with this phone. And if you lose someone, the little things are disappearing so quickly with time. How his hair smelled, or the way he went a little wobbly in flip-flops, or the way he drove me crazy, never delete any E-Mails, even Junk Mail .

"I don't want to lose the little things. I'm not in a hurry to shut it off. "

Jaclyn Schwartz and her late husband Jason,

And Jessica Allen , of London, Ontario, told Redditors: "We bury my Brother with his phone, so we text him. My parents paid she stopped for a few months, then. Finally, a year later, someone got The Number . "

Jessica told the BBC, her Brother Brad killed himself at the age of 18 in 2007. She Said it was important to maintain The Family , that the connection over The Phone . If The Number has been assigned to, Jessica, it was admits is difficult, as it was another loss.

Andrea Warnick is a psychotherapist in Toronto, specializing in grief counseling. She is unsurprised by the need for people to stay in contact with deceased friends and families via their mobile phones and Social Media : "It is a deep human need to stay connected to The Dead . "

you said that this would be historically, where religious and spiritual institutions would step in and offer rituals.

"Most people, not to be expected in this answer. It is only a means of communication. Many of us don't have the rituals or traditions that used to be the leading force in These Times . "

She Said it was perfect, to want to be healthy, to stay In Touch , however, when the numbers were re-allocated, through a third party, the risk is that there is a feeling like an extra death. She added that it was important for the grieving to make space for the death in your life.

Ruth says she felt comforted by the response and wanted to meet you, Amber , many thanks to you personally, especially after the discovery of this unique and strange man who once played in the same poker circles as her Brother .

Mourners traditionally, spirituality turned to contact The Dead , says Prof Andrea Warnick

Amber , 32, said: "I really think I should be this number. It is More Than a coincidence that I get paid. The more we talked about messages, the more we realized that we had a lot in common.

she is a little confused as to why it "blew" on Reddit, how you did it.

"and when, become a more compassionate person with something special?

"not cost, It respond me anything. People get hung up on trying to say The Right thing in these types of situations, but sometimes people just need to be able to vent, or say what you need, and move on.

"you don't need any advice as they mourn. You just need space. There is nothing need to borrow your Ear . "

bereavement, reddit, friendship, mobile phones, loneliness

Source of news: bbc.com